Five weeks a go my PR advisor suggested that I start a personal blog so that people get to know more about me and my work. Very enthusiastically I bought the name, designed how it would look and started writing the articles. The advice was not to write anything too personal: it should not be about how I juggle full time motherhood (my husband works fulltime and we have no childcare, my work is juggled around school and nursery times, evenings and all weekends), or anything about my personal life, but a focused blog about building the company, my thoughts of where we are going and how we have come this far etc.
However in the five weeks that have passed I have had three personal experiences which have affected the way that I view both work and home and I thought I would share these with you.
The first was the death my computer, I thought this was an absolute tragedy (although I do backup and have excellent IT support from my brother), until my mother went into hospital with heart failure five weeks ago on Saturday. I left starbucks (or as my family, friends and company call it ‘my office’ where I regularly use the hotspot to catch up on the weeks work) to rush to the hospital and make sure all was OK. For the next week all my family (including my IT support) were at the hospital ensuring that my mother had a full recovery. After the week all was well and I took my kids to legoland for the weekend and my brother went abroad with his children for the school holidays.
We arrived back on the Sunday after a refreshing break. On the Monday my health fanatic father was taken to hospital with what we soon discovered was a very aggressive cancer that had penetrated his whole body. He stayed in hospital for three weeks with visits of increasing intensity from all the family. On the third week I with my mother, brother and uncles started to stay with him all day at the hospital and sleep in his room overnight, until he died peacefully with us around him on the Friday.
The day before he died a friend of mine also died of cancer, again a quick illness and very unexpected to all who knew her.
Now I don’t want this to be a depressing blog. My father led a good life. His wife is well provided for and children are old enough and settled to look after themselves, we all got to say goodbye and have nothing but happy memories that will live on. I am writing this however for the triple shock factor.
My computer (OK my computer dying now seems very unimportant) _ I backed up, had firewalls, used up to date anti-virus software, did everything that I thought was right and yet on a Saturday in Starbucks five weeks ago I lost the central part of my company which was not recovered for four weeks (thank goodness I had my brother to sort it out)
My father did everything right, he was the healthiest person that I knew of any age, he ate well, exercised fanatically, always went to the doctor for regular checkups and had a very positive attitude to life and health
My friend was under forty with two young children and apparently very healthy (I was chatting to her in starbucks only a few weeks ago and all was fine)
Conclusions: I will leave nothing to chance in business of in my personal life.
My husband and I are putting our affairs in order next week, we will get our wills updated and our insurances put in place as we have responsibilities to our children
Together with the members of my company I will make sure that we are a smooth working machine, everyone can do their job independently and if someone is away the systems will be in place to do the required work until their return. As we have a responsibility to each other and the scientific community that is now beginning to rely on us for up to- to –date informative events
So apologies for the start of this blog as its personal and not up beat (and apologies to my PR advisors too as I have done it all wrong!), but this is all that has been happening with me, since the blog started.
The articles that follow were all started before this one and now my computer has been resurrected and my father and friend have been put to rest they are being finished and will be posted soon